Earlier this year, a pastor friend asked me to help him look at a document that is for local Chinese church to do a pre-marital counseling questionnaire, and asked how I feel about these issues? I said the Chinese people are more subtle and not so directly to the public discussion of property, home, self-image, family background of the problem, we are beating about the bush, beat around the bush to say.
We also have these problems, as are many, after all, white black yellow people, the weakness of human nature we are all the same. But most of the time, we do not say these problems. Generally quarrel will turn out. He said the pastor or counselor in the United States frequently asked questions, no big deal. But I advised him not to use this questionnaire.
Dou Wentao today to see the "Qiang Qiang" show and discuss marital problems, saying that men and women of good fit, what kind of woman with what kind of man, what a strong weak, the last Xu Zidong concluded that, in fact, the number of money, were the size of the , does not matter, life for decades, the last key, or the details.
Because of these details, marriage has become very troublesome.
But this detail, what is it?
I think this time the questionnaire to see long ago, so he wrote to the discussion over, as is posted below.
I found that the U.S. is the polarization of the marriage. High divorce rate, bad on the loose, good will be very, very good, like "Chinese-style divorce," described in this too has been good, they can not live away from the "Asian marriage" of the situation, I 'd see much. I guess it is not with such a transparent and open statements about? When the West to do research, the total number of concepts that should refine (operationalize), bold aesthetic for men and women is a good fit this topic, they are more refined than the Chinese, like, clear. Problems for the American couple, I really like the movie we said, will say:
"We need to talk about." (We need to talk, we need to have the same gucci handbags.)
"We need a reasonable reason." (Let's work these out.)
And about time, nothing more than nod them. Expression of love as we are not good at the same (see my previous write this blog), we do not good at face conflicts.
This list, people from the details to start with, thinking all aspects of marriage. Clearly, this and the Chinese people seem to talk about marriage is not a discourse, it is nothing prescription, we may and I had, like, what are so obvious that you are not interesting. But think about or put up Come on, if to be a reference 也好. If not, to understand another culture when the side of good.
Life is trouble, there are risks of marriage, a man need to consider carefully. The main purpose of this article is to promote cultural difference, if someone is too scared to get married, I shall not be responsible.
Why should we get married?
As a couple, we have to what in life?
Do you think we are three or four years will do?
High frequency you drink it?
Have you had your people?
Do you feel loyal to each other is very important? Why / not?
You have a criminal record?
Bathroom toilet paper do you want to replace these things?
How would you describe yourself?
How do you think I'm you?
I'm easily jealous person?
I have trust in each other's problems or do not feel safe?
I was definitely more important?
I will treat others praise it?
What is your love language?
Do you think I'm good at listening to it?
What do you think about a person's physical and mental health history is very important?
Positive words
For example, you praise your partner how attractive appearance, or her just how delicious dinner for ... these words will help build your self-image or confidence in love.
Time spent
Some couples prefer to spend time together, work together, or to express love to each other as the center. If your partner is that the language of love, immediately turn off the TV and give her undivided attention.
Gift( like the gucci bags) is the universal culture of people who do not have to cost a lot to send a strong message of love. If you receive a gift of a great partner to enjoy her birthday or an important anniversary in the not received a gift, or her partner had never presented a gift to her, she will feel neglected or not loved.
Serve the behavior of
Discover how you can best do something for your partner takes time and creativity. These actions serve, such as cleaning, feed the birds, planting gardens, etc., need to do it happily as a gift of love to each other.
Physical contact
Sometimes love just caressing the back, holding her hand, or gently kiss her cheek will fulfill this need.
We also have these problems, as are many, after all, white black yellow people, the weakness of human nature we are all the same. But most of the time, we do not say these problems. Generally quarrel will turn out. He said the pastor or counselor in the United States frequently asked questions, no big deal. But I advised him not to use this questionnaire.
Dou Wentao today to see the "Qiang Qiang" show and discuss marital problems, saying that men and women of good fit, what kind of woman with what kind of man, what a strong weak, the last Xu Zidong concluded that, in fact, the number of money, were the size of the , does not matter, life for decades, the last key, or the details.
Because of these details, marriage has become very troublesome.
But this detail, what is it?
I think this time the questionnaire to see long ago, so he wrote to the discussion over, as is posted below.
I found that the U.S. is the polarization of the marriage. High divorce rate, bad on the loose, good will be very, very good, like "Chinese-style divorce," described in this too has been good, they can not live away from the "Asian marriage" of the situation, I 'd see much. I guess it is not with such a transparent and open statements about? When the West to do research, the total number of concepts that should refine (operationalize), bold aesthetic for men and women is a good fit this topic, they are more refined than the Chinese, like, clear. Problems for the American couple, I really like the movie we said, will say:
"We need to talk about." (We need to talk, we need to have the same gucci handbags.)
"We need a reasonable reason." (Let's work these out.)
And about time, nothing more than nod them. Expression of love as we are not good at the same (see my previous write this blog), we do not good at face conflicts.
This list, people from the details to start with, thinking all aspects of marriage. Clearly, this and the Chinese people seem to talk about marriage is not a discourse, it is nothing prescription, we may and I had, like, what are so obvious that you are not interesting. But think about or put up Come on, if to be a reference 也好. If not, to understand another culture when the side of good.
Life is trouble, there are risks of marriage, a man need to consider carefully. The main purpose of this article is to promote cultural difference, if someone is too scared to get married, I shall not be responsible.
Why should we get married?
As a couple, we have to what in life?
Do you think we are three or four years will do?
High frequency you drink it?
Have you had your people?
Do you feel loyal to each other is very important? Why / not?
You have a criminal record?
Bathroom toilet paper do you want to replace these things?
How would you describe yourself?
How do you think I'm you?
I'm easily jealous person?
I have trust in each other's problems or do not feel safe?
I was definitely more important?
I will treat others praise it?
What is your love language?
Do you think I'm good at listening to it?
What do you think about a person's physical and mental health history is very important?
Positive words
For example, you praise your partner how attractive appearance, or her just how delicious dinner for ... these words will help build your self-image or confidence in love.
Time spent
Some couples prefer to spend time together, work together, or to express love to each other as the center. If your partner is that the language of love, immediately turn off the TV and give her undivided attention.
Gift( like the gucci bags) is the universal culture of people who do not have to cost a lot to send a strong message of love. If you receive a gift of a great partner to enjoy her birthday or an important anniversary in the not received a gift, or her partner had never presented a gift to her, she will feel neglected or not loved.
Serve the behavior of
Discover how you can best do something for your partner takes time and creativity. These actions serve, such as cleaning, feed the birds, planting gardens, etc., need to do it happily as a gift of love to each other.
Physical contact
Sometimes love just caressing the back, holding her hand, or gently kiss her cheek will fulfill this need.
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